Being mindful


It is that time of year again when everyone is charging around like headless chooks, trying to get into the holiday spirit. The pressure is on to catch up with family and friends, breakfasts, brunches, lunches, dinners, drinks, as well as attend work and community events. It’s no wonder that shopping feels like running the gauntlet and the stress of forgetting someone or something, let alone thinking of what to get everyone on our list, has us vowing to do it differently next year.

The reality is, this time passes us before we know it, and we are soon welcoming in the New Year, planning our Easter break, our Labour Day weekend, and trying to get an early start on Christmas presents. Time passes too quickly.

We know that this time will pass. Regardless of what we do, this time will pass. So, although I am not into New Year resolutions, I do try to reflect on the past year and work out what worked and what didn’t. Time will pass anyway, so why not try and fill it with the things that matter.

Although this wasn’t a ‘normal’ year for me, over the last few months, it has settled back into some semblance of normality. However, next year promises to be equally unsettling as we finish our move from the mainland and my parents and brother’s family move over as well. How do we get into our flow with so many expected and unexpected events displacing our normalcy?

We probably continue the same way as always—as best we can!

I need to be more mindful of the universe’s goal to disrupt my plans. Everyone and everything seems to work against me and my plans. Well, that is what it feels like. So, rather than be reactive—which after several decades of experience hasn’t worked that well for me, I must be more proactive. Knowing that my plans are likely to go pear-shaped—from said decades of experience—I must use the brain in my head and expect this as I make my plans.

Rather than complaining that my writing was interrupted—yet again—and blame those interruptions for not meeting my word count and goals, I must be smarter than the average bear and be mindful that things always happen.

How do I do this? Carrying a notebook everywhere is one easy way to ensure I can write wherever I find myself to be. I did this the other day. An interruption meant that my plans were turned upside down and I found myself in a new environment with a couple of hours of potentially twiddling my thumbs. This time I turned the frustration into motivation.

I wasn’t quite sure where I was up to in my chapter, but I knew I had to write some storm scenes that I plan to insert throughout the book. With no clear plan, I just told myself to start writing. It worked! I managed to crank out six scenes during the time I was waiting and made use of the interruption in a way I haven’t before.

I was so proud of those, albeit, short scenes and the insight I gained through doing them has changed the way I look at these imposed short spaces of time.

Right now, I have people around me. I played a couple of card games with the grandchildren, so I don’t feel guilty using this time to write a blog post. My son-in-law is busy cooking breakfast, and as I am not indulging, I don’t feel an ounce of guilt. I am in the zone and writing words, which is always (well, to be honest, a very new ‘always’ 😊) my goal. If I don’t do it, no one else will.

I hope you can take the time to reflect on your past year and find something that worked. Whatever your goal, if it matters to you take the time to find a way to reach it. You are the only one who can achieve what you want to achieve, and if you don’t do it, no one will do it for you.

So, use that brain of yours and work out what is important to you. Then be mindful of what works, what doesn’t, and find a way to succeed. Baby steps are perfectly OK. Progress is progress. The time will pass, so use it to start making a difference in your own life today.

Wishing you all a very happy Christmas and holiday time with those you love.

Cheers to a great 2019.



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